Every bar, every coffee house, every supermarket. Malls, book stores, parks, concerts, parties (house or otherwise), the street, and anywhere else you find people, they are all the Field. This is where you meet women. Usually when I, as well as many people in the dating advice community, refer to the Field I am talking about night clubs. Night clubs, as Mystery puts it, are “social watering holes”. Simply put this is where people come specifically to meet other people.
For many going into a club is a little daunting. I’ve never been much of a night club person until I started working on improving my social abilities. It’s loud, which means you need to learn to project your voice, it’s crowded, so you have to learn to be very comfortable around people, but most importantly there are a lot of good looking girls that go to these venues. And it is for those reasons that night clubs are a perfect place to practice good social habits. If you talk to a girl and it doesn’t work out, no big deal. You move on to the next.
There are many different ways to look at the Field. If you enjoy video games you can look at it as the ultimate role playing game. You can disassociate yourself from the scenario and see yourself as a character you created. You customized this character’s clothing, hair style, and attitude to be the person you see as a confident well put together person, the kind of person you have always wanted to be. Look at the venue as a map and all the people are non-player characters. When you get “shot down” you can easily just respawn and try again.
I look at the Field a little more realistically. As I mentioned in a previous post, single women in the Field are like beacons shouting out “Come talk to me! Let me see what you’re like!” They evaluate you and if you are not their type then they will hint at it by acting disinterested. You take the hint and politely move on to another group. I know this can seem harsh but it’s not, I will post more about this at a later time.
You will have to find a way of looking at the Field that works for you. Just remember, all around the world as you read this people are meeting other people. Relationships that will last for the rest of their lives are being forged at this moment, and they are all happening in the Field.
Sincerely,
Jack Sunday